Positive Feedback, We all need it!

I received an e-mail recently thanking me for my daily Blessings. The woman wrote they made such a difference in her life, and actually helped her to start her day. I was thrilled to get this feedback, yet like most people who attempt to do good in the world, I was a little surprised. Although I do put my heart and soul and ‘mind’ power into the composition of my blessings to others, it is hard for me to recognize that they might actually help someone. This is part of the human condition. As a positive psychologist I recognize that we have trouble putting a value on what we offer to the world. Yet, most of us are quick to give value or to devalue what others offer! How strange, that our minds can not fully appreciate what we ourselves do for others. Yet, that is the way it is. Consequently, we must each struggle to not devalue our own efforts and to constantly do what we can for others and of course, ourselves.

Hopefully, we will get the reinforcement that we need-as I did by getting that e-mail. I would encourage you to remember to reinforce others who are in your life. Let them know that what they do has real value and meaning.

And let’s hope others will do the same for you! Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com