The Communal Sharing of Enchantment

The Communal Sharing of Enchantment Mentoring and learning from each other is much more than taking a course or explicitly giving someone advice or help. Almost every moment of every day when we are with people has the potential for becoming a mentoring or a learning situation. We talk, gesture, and involve ourselves in many […]

Recipe for Enchantment #20

Living a Life of Enchantment is Very Simple. You need to stir together and develop seven capacities that we all have: 1. You need to know yourself. 2. You need also to like yourself. 3. You need to meet your needs. 4. You need to build pleasure and replenishment into your life. 5. You need […]

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein looks at the Enchanted Self’s Third Gateway to Happiness in Reference to girls growing up.

The Enchanted Self’s Third Gateway to Happiness is all about learning to meet our needs, and how to negotiate for ourselves. Often kids certainly know what their needs are better than adults, because everything is less disguised, fresher and closer to the surface. But they very often don’t know how to negotiate for themselves or […]

RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, part 3

In my new book RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!, I talk about so many occasions when people took positive actions and then had the pleasant rewarding experience of positive feelings. These positive feelings varied from person to person yet included the whole spectrum of well being, including joyousness, contentment, satisfaction, pleasure and […]

RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, part 2

How do we take all the moments of life that are often repetitive and ordinary, and turn them into captivating personal times? One way is through optimizing our own sense of well being. This internal state is particularly reactive to our emotional and physical states of health. For instance, I remember occasions when good things […]

RECIPE FOR ENCHANTMENT – THE THREE Rs: Remembering the Best

In today’s world there are so many wonderful and inspirational books. There are books filled with stories of Divine intervention, miracles happening, special positive moments never to be forgotten and stories of incredible coincidences. They help make us feel in harmony with the universe. They help us fall asleep and have pleasant dreams. They often […]