Chofetz Chaim, a wonderful Jewish teacher, told others that he initially wanted to change the world, but found he couldn’t. Then he wanted to change his family, but he couldn’t. Finally he realized that he could only work on himself! And he did. He spent years studying the negative effects of gossip and hurtful talk and trained himself not to do any of it. And do you know what happened? His teaching on this subject spread far and wide and now he has influenced much of the world! People all over study his wise words around gossip and practice his approach to speaking of others in positive ways.